First of all,Thank You for having such a wonderful website.Question is,,,my nature has been a sub to a wonderful Master in the past whom i lost to due to an illness.i now have been asked to provide dominent pleasures to someone who is craving the world of submission.my curiousity has the better of me and would appreciate any help in this matter.To become a switch would be a wonderful experience to me if only the right person could help me in this area. :)
Thank YOU for the compliments and the support. A little ‘attagirl’ goes a long way for me!
It is very sad that you lost your Master. My deepest condolences. There are not a lot of people that understand the depth of this type of relationship, and while the pain is intense in any sort of loss, if you were deep into the submissive role I am sure it has taken quite a lot of strength to think about switching.
As for how to go about it, I think you are already farther along than a lot of people who would like to become dominant. You have experienced it from the other side, and in my opinion, that experience gives you a bit more understanding of the mindset of the submissive. Take that knowledge and the experiences that you lived through, expand upon them, and experiment! It is not clear whether or not this person is experienced or beginning, but you must learn together. This is something you are going to have to explore fully, both in mindset and the physical aspects. While I’d advise you to use your experiences as a basis, don’t limit yourself by these experiences. If the submissive wants to go somewhere you were not personally able to go, try to rise up to that and take them there if your comfort level and the Safe, Sane Consensual motto will allow. One of the best resources on the mindset and mental aspects of play is the book The Loving Dominant, by John Warren. This is a standard stock item for Dark Fire Gallery, though at the time of this writing, I am waiting for my shipment to arrive. Please, keep checking for it. Learn, and never stop. Read books such as Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, read through sites such as Castle Realm http://www.castlerealm.com and some of the other sites in my Dark Fire Links section under award winners and BDSM resources. Get involved in a group, and go to play parties. Watch others play, and discuss whether or not these things interest you both. You are right, the right person has to help you. That person is your partner, through communication, feedback, trust and a sense of exploration and adventure.
