It is if you are homophobic. –smile- OK, seriously, it is only if you think it is. Does it make you less of a person? No. Unless you force yourself on the guys you like. Personally, I think the most males are missing out on some serious male bonding opportunities by being homophobic and afraid to show feelings for other males. When I was involved in the four person marriage (described on my “me” page on Dark Fire Gallery) I would almost cry when I saw my husbands cuddling and being close. Were they gay? Not a chance. They never had any sort of sexual experience with each other. Did they love each other? Definitely. Your question does not get specific, so this all I can offer. The rest is up to you, and the approval has to come from YOU.