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I can only come when I masturabte

dear krista whenever by myself i can get aroused and achieve an orgasm. but when around my boyfriend my libio is low i have to get in the mood to have sex. i have to masturbate to bring myself to orgasm after he ejaculates. he lives in another state but the thing is, since discovering masturbation at 17 and so use to bring myself to cum is my body not used to another person performing sex other than me? i'm 24 i have experienced 3 orgasms from from past partners. what is wrong with me?

My first instinct here is that there is nothing wrong with you. My own husband prefers masturbation to sex quite often, and I personally find nothing wrong with that. It could definitely be an ego blow to your boyfriend, though, if he is insecure or measures his sexual prowess on whether or not he gets you off. The concern here is that maybe you don't open yourself up to other people. It may not necessarily be the lack of libido, but rather the lack of trust, passion and desire for intimacy. Sometimes, this is caused by abuse as a child I suggest, as a first step, exploring together everything that makes you cum when you are by yourself. If it is a certain pressure, or a certain fantasy, share it. Make it a part of your sexual adventures. Share your fun with him. Have him run the controls of the vibrator. Explore and learn to be intimate.

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