I’d suggest going at this issue from both the mental and the physical. If you practiced this technique on purpose and it was not a natural state of being, then why not use the same techniques to reverse it? A lot of medical professionals recommend breathing techniques and meditations to control orgasm. With practice and concentration, I believe that most men can control the orgasm time completely. Some men do things like thinking of baseball to stop orgasm-why not think of the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders all flicking their tongues on your sensitive parts (at the same time, of course!) instead? Start an active fantasy, and use it! Try some dirty talk with your partner, which should keep you focused on the task at hand.

Physically, there are a lot of things that can effect this, such as condoms. If you are a condom user, then try putting a drop or two of lube into the tip of the condom. This makes for a bit more movement on the tip, which is generally the most sensitive area. Try different condoms, too. There are amazing differences in thicknesses and sizes of condoms, and this can make a lot of difference in your ability to achieve orgasm. One that is as thick as an innertube will decrease sensitivity. One that is too tight will cut off blood circulation and can act in the capacity of a cock ring, making you go longer without achieving orgasm. Be careful with your condom choices and research them, as condoms like Avanti are known to be unreliable. If condoms are just too much of a numbing agent, then get her off and go to mutual masturbation. Try warming oils or Kamasutra Pleasure Balm to draw your attention to your tool. Be sure to carefully test these with your partner first, though, as she may have sensitivity to them. Another suggestion would be foreplay, and LOTS OF IT! You may be one of those people that unselfishly puts aside orgasm until your partner has come 18 times. While noble and certainly great for your partner, your mind is so completely focused on your partner that you become the martyr in this situation. Remember that intercourse is a two way street and that you are responsible for your own orgasm.