Dear Sanjay,

NO, NO NO!!!!! Do you want to burn her sensitive skin? Do you want to possibly mutilate her? Bleach has NO BUSINESS in that area!!!

While I realize that the culture of India is different than that of America, I'm going to try anyway. If I influence one person to love completely, I have succeeded.

There are a lot of countries that believe in vaginal mutilation. India is one that I've heard of, as well as Africa and some Middle Eastern countries. Before anyone gets up in arms, yes, I HAVE heard of it happening in India. These countries believe in things like female circumcision, sewing vaginal lips shut to preserve virginity, and other practices that most Americans find abhorrant. These mutilations are nothing short of criminal. While the culture may find it OK, it is the individual that has the moral responsibility not to hurt others. I hope that you can find it in your heart to accept your wife, as you expect her to accept you. Complete with flaws, burps, moles, farts, personality quirks, penis size, etc.

That is a part of the woman you are going to marry. If you do not find her beautiful, maybe you should look at yourself and ask yourself what she is settling for if she marries you. Is your penis the perfect size and color for her? Is your height to her liking? She is a person deserving of acceptance just as we ALL are. If you cannot or will not accept her complete with flaws and not try to mutilate her, you do not deserve her.

updateI have heard of someone doing asshole bleaching, and they do it with something like Esoterica cream. If you absolutely MUST, be careful, but I am still under the opinion that you should not try it. This should be her decision and hers alone.