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Walking on me...
Hi Krista.
I'm 18 and I moved out of my home town where my ex girlfriend resides about 4 months ago for college. We tried the whole long distance relationship thing but I didn't feel it was working and so I broke it off. I love her with all of my heart still and we have talked a few times since we broke up and she really wants to get back together. I broke up with her because she wasn't treating me very well, she walked all over me, I just never got out of the relationship what I put into it so I don't wanna get stuck in that situation again. She talked to me and kept hinting that she would do anything I wanted emotionally and physically. But she always went for the physical side of me more that the emotional side. So all of a sudden I feel this wave of want for her that I know I shouldn't have because she has hurt me pretty bad in the past by cheating on me and other little things that insult my intelligence and hurt my feeling in general. I can't ask my friends what they think because they all hate her for what she's done to me. But I'm not sure what I should do I still really do love her. Should I get back together or should I hold my ground and try to find somebody that makes me happy to??
Sincerly; Out in left Field
Dear Out In Left Field,
It sounds to me as if you might be suffering from a bit of low self-esteem. If she is truly doing hurtful things and insulting your intelligence, you are the one at fault. Most people don't even realize that they are doing things like this unless they are truly mean-spirited, and believe me, I've met a few of those! She may be testing her sexual prowess which is something that young women go through-they are beautiful, young, fresh, and desireable to most men. The problem is, a lot of these young women don't yet know how to do this without hurting the men around them. If you are not standing up to these things and demanding the respect a real relationship deserves, then you are making yourself into a doormat for her to use and abuse. Have some respect for yourself. If she does not treat you well and make you happy, ask yourself why you are still there. If you feel a need to be walked on in such a manner, seek professional help, as this is a sign of trouble. Good luck, I wish you strength and self respect!
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